I dropped the mask behind the mask and considered it an act of acceptance. I surrendered to God. My true nature was being hidden from the world. The put together Jess was a fraud. I practiced being attached to nothing, and I started to attract more of what was good for me. The pictures on the wall looked different. And I became ok with that. I accepted that my nest was empty and that my life had changed. I made peace with my skin and settled in. I didn’t know that eventually I would be shedding this same skin. Acceptance is hard. It may be one of the hardest things to do. To accept what is for what it is and no longer go against the current of change.
Acceptance means to surrender. It means surrendering to make us vulnerable, and when we become vulnerable our hearts open up to new opportunities, new possibilities, new creativity, new horizons. New ways of being as we no longer recycle old habits. (The ones that keep you in the same small space). When I understood the meaning of not listening to my mind, I made it very clear that I would have to lose my mind to gain clarity while healing. My mind with its thought processes never helped me much in the past. In fact it led me to stray at times. Unreliable. Wisdom is when we go from students to teachers. The been there and done that moments are experiences. We are always learning, so it’s best to stay a student. We should not stop where we are. Life is full of surprises, that’s the whole point. How we respond to its hardships will determine how long the lessons last.
The more you resist, the more of it you get. When you stop resisting you finally get off the wheel. Real life experiences bring wisdom. We become masters of repetition. We go into situations often knowing the outcome. Familiarity. We stick with what feels normal. The observer in you sees what you are doing to yourself and others. We have to accept responsibility for our actions and how we react. The observer knows that we must relearn different methods of coping, and how we react to situations and what to balance in our lives. Deal with what needs to heal. Be intentional to see changes. We feel the realness of our stillness. We don’t have to be around what doesn’t feel right for us.
Let go of the attachments and only do what makes you feel good. With wisdom comes resilience. Every decision or choice we make comes with a cause and effect. The outcome will always be accordingly, so choose wisely. As the observers of our lives, we see the show. We get a front row seat to our habits and familiar settings. This is the time to see with clarity what it is that you are doing. Observe what you are doing to create that vision and then worry about the details. As long as you are doing something your future self will thank you for it. Some people tend to drown in the details. It’s all about the details to them and no vision attached to it. How does that work exactly? If you can not see this dream in your head, it does not mean its not real, it means it needs more clarity. Of Course the details are important when you have a clear picture of what it is that you want.
The same applies to our thoughts. If we allow our minds to plant seeds, they will harvest. You will reap what you sow. That is why it’s important to not covet what others have. No one knows the cross they have been asked to carry. Why bring that in your life, if it wasn’t meant for you? As you think, so it shall be. We become our thoughts. How encouraging to know that we can change our behavior patterns if we just change our thoughts. That’s a great place to start. Our minds, like a PC programmed to think and feel a certain way. We are accustomed to traditions. Our parents taught us what they knew, and they got it from their parents and so on and so forth. Generations thinking the same. “Raising _________________” ( fill in your name )
Years of likeminded thinking patterns, passed on like hand me downs. No one questions the information, we just learn it and after years of repression, we suddenly realize that we no longer want to create the same things. We no longer care to be seen, nor heard. We have to shut out the outside noise first, otherwise, it won’t work. You will continue to create the same experiences based on what you see and hear on the exterior. Finding you is purposeful. It will require you to face fears, get grounded and recall your energy back from time to time. It’s becoming free of distractions and moving in different directions, visiting unknown territories and trusting that you can live harmoniously in and with your environment. We are chasers by nature, born with a fire in our belly. On top of the world. I think that over the years it gets covered under all the confusion.
We neglect to seek the inner wisdom required for such a time as this and so we go about our lives trying to find a purpose and a reason for our existence, filling our lives with tangible objects, and other things with no real value. Our relationships with others become transactional. We allow disrespect and other forms of manipulation just to go along and get along. Diminishing ourselves, feeling depleted while gripped with emotions. We meet our inner child who knows where we’re safe and when we are unsafe. We know one way to be safe is when we go in play mode, we become creative and rebirthed with ideas.
We get to change the quality of our energy, when we show up. There is courage in putting ourselves out there again. We develop a more responsible internal dialogue. I used to care so much about what others thought about me, that I strayed from the things that I loved doing. I couldn’t find peace with what I was doing, and what was worse was that I was not progressing. I was creating and manifesting more of the same. I felt stuck. Stagnant. The truth is that we tend to give more of what we have to others in hopes of receiving the same, and not realizing that people can not give us what they do not have. Life is filled with choices, some more difficult than others. I was blind to my own BS. I was letting my emotions get the best of me, ruining me, creating a divide amongst my loved ones, getting in my own way, in the way of the Master’s plan, for me and my family.
I was Praying for healing, year after year. It seemed as if I hadn’t healed, when In fact I had grown so much, I just wasn’t giving myself the validation for it. I was waiting for other people to see the good job I thought I was doing.We do awaken to our truth and when we do, we see from a different lens. Life can numb us at times. It’s a mirror in relationships. How we interact and treat other people is a reflection of who we are. We have a distorted perspective on what love really is. Who actually knows what it feels like? We all experience it in a different way. I think that love is a state of being. In my opinion, it’s a mind and body connection that fulfills us. Wholeness. Fullness, yet heavy at times, but always has a warmness to it.
Accepting is taking all that has happened and moving along with wisdom. It can be possible, when we start to forgive ourselves and forgive others. The key is to forgive. It will release loads of guilt we have been carrying around for years. It creates space for the planting of new seeds. So, start making space for the new to come in. Forgiving others is huge. Self-forgiveness is first. It does us better than we think. Forgiveness says, ” I don’t hold any grudges”. It takes a courageous heart to forgive. Think real hard on who needs your forgiveness, and list them below. Forgiveness also returns your power from the anger and fears that held you back. Endings become new beginnings with more fulfilling relationships. Behind every closed door is a new beginning.
All endings, all doors closing, are always a good sign. They are signs of better things to come. Signs of what’s to come, signs of what no longer can be. As I began to forgive those that trespassed against me, it was opening my heart up to a whole other level of love. Unconditional, as in, No matter what, I still love you. I may not trust you the same way but it’s all love. We choose what’s valuable for us because we are no longer weighing our hearts down with unforgiveness. Go on – be free. Forgive someone today. Forgiveness for me was foreign, I walked around in unforgiveness for years. I was a Poster Child of unforgiveness.
When I learned the power of unforgiveness, I later understood that it was a huge part in my healing journey. I had walked around slumped for a long time, losing sleep to other people, when I could have just forgiven them and kept it moving. Forgiveness taught me it doesn’t matter what happened, it’s what you are going to do next. Where do I go from here? Forgiveness released the loads of guilt I carried. It created a space for the planting of seeds of love, patience and worth. All for me. Forgiveness frees up your heart when you let go. Forgiveness returned my power. The anger and fear that held me back began to leave me. More Resolutions. It gives an ending to form your own conclusion, and it closes the door to pass hurts, while clearing the path. Forgiveness is acknowledging that it happened, that’s all it is.
Accept the people we cannot change. Thank them for their part in your story. Create this space to remove the sorrows and sufferings you have seen or endured. It rids us of our shame. We no longer have to hold on to guilt. The piles of regret- smaller, lighter, almost nonexistent. You have survived sadness, that makes you emotionally strong.
Concentrate on healing and to put behind whatever could overwhelm or immobilize you on your journey ahead. There will be heartache along the way. I prayed my way through. I asked God to show me how to face the heartache, grief and trauma that was tearing me apart. Healing became my top priority. Acceptance is huge. It’s making peace with what is as much as you want it to be something else. It’s giving up, throwing in the towel, it’s all those things. Notice where you are right now. Be thankful for the roof over your head and the car to move you around in. Adopt a different approach, as in the here and now, and in the moment type.
Gratitude List Write down 10 things you are most grateful for. If you don’t get the job you wanted, be thankful for the opportunity to have interviewed. Your next interview will be better. Be prepared to be grateful once you see how it has unfolded up to this point. The challenges we face today build us for the struggles of tomorrow, however we struggle to find peace and see our provisions, our purpose, through the distractions. Missing more Growth opportunities. What we give our energy to is what will live on.
Give energy to your creative ideas and let them become real-life projects. Go after everything they thought you couldn’t or shouldn’t have, and run with that thought. Stay unbothered. The moment we begin to care what the next person is saying about us, we give away our power. We lose our confidence.
Take your power back. Believe in your vision, trust your voice, and keep moving forward—unapologetically. Your dreams were planted in you for a reason. It’s time to grow.
